Welcoming Strangers

Jane Hall Fitz-Gibbon and Andrew Fitz-Gibbon have cared for more than 100 children in a foster care career spanning more than three decades.

Jane Hall Fitz-Gibbon, Andrew Fitz-Gibbon

Contents Acknowledgments A Note about Language Introduction: Welcoming Strangers 1 Responding to a Major Need 2 The Multiple Violences Suffered by Children in Care 3 Larger Houses, More Children 4 Thinking Further about Violence 5 Why Re-parenting? 6 Teens, Tantrums, Sex, and Substance Abuse 7 A Question of Ethics: How Shall We Live? 8 The Long Term: Permanence, Adoption, Returning Home, and Keeping in Touch 9 Spanking, Discipline, and Nonviolence 10 Loving Nonviolent Habits and Virtues 11 Second-Hand Shock Syndrome and Caring for Yourself 12 Praxis: Creating a Nonviolent Home with the Ordinariness of Love Addendum: Money Can't Buy Me Love Appendix: Definitions of Child Abuse, Maltreatment, and Neglect in New York References Index